What is coaching?
This is a fairly common question. Coaching is still a relatively nascent discipline and there are numerous approaches, methodologies, and types of coaches out there.
My preferred definition of coaching is as a powerful partnership between you and your coach that helps you focus, become more effective, and realize your visions and goals.
With a Professional Coach, you will develop the tools and support to remove obstacles and facilitate the changes you want to see in your life.
As well as being a coach, I also work with a coach. It’s been a huge contributor in helping to clarify my thinking, see new ways of doing things, and make genuine progress in my life and work.
Is coaching like therapy? Or is it similar to consulting?
Coaching is related to both these disciplines, but there are some clear differences.
This diagram helps explain the differences and similarities between coaching and other related practices like consulting and therapy.
Note: this diagram looks at coaching through the lens of business. There are other areas where coaching is useful too, although business is a popular use case
What the reasons to work with a coach?
There are many. Here are just a few of them.
• to focus your thinking
• to discover and connect with your core values and passions
• to create more balance in your life
• to make a transition or pivot in your career
• to focus your energy to finish or plan a project
• to launch or grow a new venture
• to develop and increase your leadership skills
• to set clear goals and build structures to help achieve them
• to enjoy life more
How can I get the most out of coaching?
• Find the coach who feels like the best fit for you. It’s worth speaking to a few – most coaches (including me) will offer a free initial call to get acquainted.
• During your first coaching session (likely a longer discovery session), set a small number of 3 month goals (maximum 3) that are worth accomplishing.
• Make the most of your coaching time. Tell your coach what results you want and your coach will help you make it happen. However, it’s important to note that your coach can’t do the work for you. The progress to the goals you want to achieve will come about through your own work. Also don’t be afraid to tell your coach if a particular approach isn’t working for you – the coach’s role is to ensure you get the results you want as a client.
• Use the time between sessions to work on homework assignments and to deepen any new awarenesses you gain from a session. Share what you are learning about yourself and what changes are happening for you with the important people in your life. Provide updates to your coach on a weekly basis if you can – accountability is a powerful thing.
What do you do as a coach?
- Listen to you openly and actively
- Reflect/mirror back to you
- Offer different perspectives
- Provide structure
- Ask powerful and probing questions
- Assist in setting goals, planning and strategizing
- Hold you accountable for what you want to achieve
- Trust you to make your own decisions
- Have your best interests at heart
- Tell the truth
- Believe in you
What do you not do?
- Do your work for you
- Judge you
- Give you legal or financial advice
- Take responsibility for you or your actions
Where can I find out more?
Here are a few coaching resources I’ve found useful:
Ed Batista, a coach based in San Francisco who also teaches at Stanford University. Ed’s blog posts and slide decks are well worth checking out
Conscious Business by Fred Kofman – former coach at LinkedIn